Here Is To Wishing

Since the passing of General Aronda last week, their has been an overwhelming outpour of high sounding nonsense dressed as conspiracy theories by a great number of people. Personally I have wanted to pay tribute to the fallen General but I couldn’t find the right words mostly because I feel like there are people more qualified for it on a personal level, then I read my friend Joel’s blog at joelbasoga.blogspot. com. He lost his dad who being a minister at the time can definitely relate to this tragedy and not on a state funeral, media noise level but on a personal one and I found exactly what I needed to say.
In the middle of all the gun salutes, the special parliamentary session is a daughter who won’t have her dad around to give her away on her wedding, and that still doesn’t top the list of her worries,  there is a boy who looks so despairingly down because he knows his days have become darker and that’s just my amateur interpretation of one picture..
And at the centre of all this there is Linda now labeled, “widow” who can’t afford to fall apart because she has to raise her family singlehandedly.

Somewhere there is actual loss

There are also the General’s siblings and I can’t even put myself in their shoes because for most people with siblings losing one should be one of the highest forms of pain & I can’t relate…
And if he still had his parent (s) , from what I hear losing a child tops the devastingly painful food chain.
The friends also will need a separate dose of pain medication to deal with the void of losing a peer.
Then there is his extended family which just had the faces of their family events altered not in a good way…
I could go on but I don’t purport to know the General’s personal life I just know that somewhere in between the pathology reports, the conspiracy theories, the self-seeking comments, the massive military funeral preparations and
media coverage, (NTV Uganda/ Daily Monitor is doing a good job), there is a loss that is so glaringly real that words may never articulate it for most of those it has affected.
No amount of promises to take care of the family will ever give the widow comfort enough or her children the security of having their dad alive.
So I wish people can stop with the outpouring of nonsense disputing the cause of death,  or whatever else insensitivity they have cooked up in order to milk as much relevance from this family’s loss because he is dead and somewhere in Buziga & Rukunguri life has changed forever.
In the lives of those he touched, those that knew Aronda Nyakairima, the man,the son, the husband, father, brother or friend not the Chief of Defence Forces or  Member
of Parliament & Minister there is grief that this bubble of conspiracy theories is just fueling and that is just rude.
And yes I know freedom of expression is a constitutional right but here is to wishing that we are decent enough people to just let people grieve in peace..


  1. AtimMercy

    You are right. Somewhere, some people are actually really grieveing and its just rude to come up with all sorts of stories during such a time..Heres to people who have the decency to let the dead rest in Peace!.
    Kudos Fionah.

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  3. murorwa

    It’s truly sad. Unfortunately when you are in the lime light, such troubles come with it. Occupational hazards. When the mighty go, everyone thinks they know best what took them and thanks to social media lately, everyone has a voice. Even the ignorant, naive, gullible all think they know what to say and so they take to the media and blubber on! I love your piece.

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  4. Kasande Dear

    Woooowwwww plz allow mi 2 say this again, u my friend write good! Chali Aronda RIP n da Holy Spirit wil surely comfort his family

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  5. Iryn

    Woooowww gal am proud of u.. U need a mic to put some sense in some pipo’s bu brains..
    RIP Gen.Aronda and may God comfort the family..

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