In the middle of all the gun salutes, the special parliamentary session is a daughter who won’t have her dad around to give her away on her wedding, and that still doesn’t top the list of her worries, there is a boy who looks so despairingly down because he knows his days have become darker and that’s just my amateur interpretation of one picture..
And at the centre of all this there is Linda now labeled, “widow” who can’t afford to fall apart because she has to raise her family singlehandedly.
There are also the General’s siblings and I can’t even put myself in their shoes because for most people with siblings losing one should be one of the highest forms of pain & I can’t relate…
And if he still had his parent (s) , from what I hear losing a child tops the devastingly painful food chain.
The friends also will need a separate dose of pain medication to deal with the void of losing a peer.
Then there is his extended family which just had the faces of their family events altered not in a good way…
I could go on but I don’t purport to know the General’s personal life I just know that somewhere in between the pathology reports, the conspiracy theories, the self-seeking comments, the massive military funeral preparations and
media coverage, (NTV Uganda/ Daily Monitor is doing a good job), there is a loss that is so glaringly real that words may never articulate it for most of those it has affected.
No amount of promises to take care of the family will ever give the widow comfort enough or her children the security of having their dad alive.
So I wish people can stop with the outpouring of nonsense disputing the cause of death, or whatever else insensitivity they have cooked up in order to milk as much relevance from this family’s loss because he is dead and somewhere in Buziga & Rukunguri life has changed forever.
In the lives of those he touched, those that knew Aronda Nyakairima, the man,the son, the husband, father, brother or friend not the Chief of Defence Forces or Member
of Parliament & Minister there is grief that this bubble of conspiracy theories is just fueling and that is just rude.
And yes I know freedom of expression is a constitutional right but here is to wishing that we are decent enough people to just let people grieve in peace..