The things I have learnt

This post is meant to go up on the 15th but considering the extenuating circumstances that are going to be sitting an equity exam on that day,I have to reschedule
Also am travelling to Fort-Portal so I have some time on my hands although I actually had the audacity to think I would be able read a Jurisprudence book I have on the phone on my way like that is very likely.
Am not very crazy about my birthday because besides the reminder that am aging,it has come to my attention that the older I grow the less gifts I receieve. Oh ya Iam totally complaining.
Let’s put the breaks on the complaining for a minute so I can appreciate the following individuals,
Diana ( my Dada),
Rosette( still figuring out what prompted your sweet gene),
Ronnie ( whatever happened to those guitar lessons),
Josh(my papa who refuses to age) Hudson ( well yo Hudson so am not saying anymore lest I be sued but the ice cream is still dearly remembered)
Ken ( My former best friend who I occassionally miss)
Dear ( My sister who gives gifts in form of collections)
You guys spoilt me last year & I don’t think I will ever say  thank you enough unless of course you do it allover again..

This being the special month (precisely the 15th day) mother dearest decided to bring me into this world,my sentimentality is visiting and so I am going to take the opportunity to let you in on a few things I have learnt over the not so few years I have been around.
Reporting live or historically from this life of mine here is a list of the things  I have learnt.

1.Nothing beats family
I come from the most untypical of families-Its was an all girls’ show until a little over two years ago when Caleb ( world’s best nephew) arrived. These guys make my world.How? I have no idea but I have come to learn that there is nothing under the sun we can’t survive. Am just going to break them down.

Mother Dearest
If I have to say everything there is to say about her,I would have enough to finally write a book so am going to condense that.
My mother is the rock,the cornerstone,the strength,the pastor.The one that keeps it together for everyone even when she herself is falling apart.
She exudes confidence, requires excellence,instills the fear of God ( am saying that in the nicest way possible) & she is the person who put everything on the line to make sure we were all ok. She has taught me that. God is the only constant and also that falling apart never accomplishes anything so do yourself a favour and keep it together.

Assistant/Vice/Deputy Mum Patie Darling
My eldest sister who has mastered the art of being relentlessly awesome & right.I have learnt that Patie is the sweet version of mum,she commands respect,requires the exercise of sound judgement, will support you even when you decide to fall off a cliff & will still let you know she’ got your back & she is also very generous. Her money has always been our money & so has her closet.She is your go to girl for everything glamarous.
She clips the messiness out of your hair, paints your nails & will make it her business to ensure your the best dressed person in the room. We have similar hobbies except her need to always impart sex education & yes I have concluded with the rest of the world that we are totally twins..And did I mention the girl is always right,you should probably go ahead and not date that guy if she says in not so many words (,using her famous. ” you know I will support you no matter what” line) that its not going anywhere. She has taught me the value of making great choices & most importantly she instilled a sense of self-worth & respect in all of us because she will always let you know that you are worth more than gold.
Patie also did herself a favour & taught me how to do every chore under the sun, so she will kick back,relax & watch you do the housework for & on her behalf. (Sharp-girl)

Mama Lucky
First off she already has points for being Caleb’s mum because well the little guy changed my life.
That said Lucky lives to her titles.She has never hit a jack pot or anything like that but she is my jack pot,my go-getting sister who stops at nothing to achieve what she wants.
I know her for being extremely strong even when she doesn’t need to be, she takes care of me from the greatest to the least need
She is not all cuddly and warm but she has understood that loves other name is sacrifice.
Oh she is one Lucky girl,she makes friends like its a professional skill & she has the world at her feet with her sharp business mind. She has taught me that you can’t give up on your dreams,you pursue them regardless of how long that may take & she is totally the best mama that has ever lived. Caleb is the luckiest guy in the world for having her as a mum.

The difference between this girl & I is that she is everything am not.
I actually believe a part of her is just adopted.
She is the petite young lady born immediately before me and up to now I have to deal with people asking me whether am sure she is older than me.(/girl get some weight because I like my baby of the family title)
She is my cheerleader, my pastor,my official partner in all wrongs civil & criminal & most importantly my bestest best friend.
She is the world’s sweetest, most pure,most amazing sister-sister.
God was very aware that her very presence in the family would keep us together. She does & gives everything and expects nothing.
She will feed you into a stupor,she invented celebrating people and she doesn’t quit.
With the best of grades and immense pressure she refused formal employment to follow her dream & has she pulled it off or what?
And yes she prays like God is sitting in a chair cross from her.This girl is awesome okay?
She has taught me that nothing under this sun is impossible.
So Iam resounding this nothing beats family & I got carried away writing about them but this still is about the things I have learnt.

2.Feelings are overrated.
There is always someone willing to throw something at me every time I mention this but I know of it’s truth. Its typical to focus on what you feel and forget what you deserve which is why more often than not you need to bundle those feelings of resentment,not wanting to read case books,not wanting to pray or talk to your friends into a tiny box and focus on the important things.
Feelings will get in the your way of  achieving the best not that they are not important but they can be overlooked.There are alot of things I never feel like doing including getting up every morning but well law school is not going to attend itself. Joyce Meyer said,”make a quality decision not to live by feelings they are a fickle” & I couldnt agree more.

3.You put enough distance between you and the things that are important to you,very soon you forget what those things are.

This is pretty simple,someone once told me that,
“The most important thing in life is to keep the most important thing as the most important thing”.
At first it sounded like one word said too many times but therein lies a salient truth,always make time for the things that matter & especially the people. These days its really easy since almost every one is a text away & technology is everyone’s bestfriend plus once in a while you can put the phone down & have a real conversation because there are things a text will never convey. In my experience it’s always better to celebrate your family and friends when they are alive than giving the “eulogy of the year” at their funeral.

4.If you don’t show up for yourself no one will.
It’s common knowledge that we don’t go through life without hustle.
I know I have had to deal with a number of things that I would probably be forgiven for giving up. The easy way is to sulk and blame everything and everyone for things falling apart.That just makes you a bitter miserable sack that no one wants to associate with because if you don’t pick yourself up and get it together no one will..Your friends and family will be kind enough to throw you a pity party or two but when it’s all said and done, you have to pull through whatever crap on your own. Regardless of how great your support system is,the only attitude that matters to get up is your own.

5.The best thing that you will ever do for yourself is to be delivered from people.
Your entire class can’t like you,neither can your whole clan agree with you,neither can everyone agree with how you talk,or dress or walk. So get delivered from people.
Its true that people’s opinions matter.However I always say I care a lot about what some people think what I don’t care much for is what most people think because my  approval rate has nothing to do with public opinion.
You pay enough attention to what everyone is saying about you & eventually you start believing it so just don’t pay attention because usually it’s a load of untruthful opinions.The most important opinion of  who you are is the one you hold.

6. There is always something to learn.
This is only true when you pay attention. It doesn’t matter where you are, or what your doing, heck It may even be a funeral.When you just listen or look around somewhere therein lies a teachable moment. This learning is especially true with situations we normally go through.It may be unfair and maddening but sometimes its a great lesson.
Somewhere along the way I lost a full school government scholarship and the moment I realized I had left me numb to say the least, but after it was all said and over with I learnt strength, patience and most of all that it doesn’t matter how right you play your cards there comes a time when you don’t get what you want & the good news is life doesn’t stop, because you will always have what you need.

7.It doesn’t always have to make sense. As long as your still here, figuring out every little detail of your life is not your job.If you try it your going to be dealing with a serious head ache at every turn. The best thing you can do for yourself sometimes is to understand that you cannot understand-this is especially true when dealing with loss.

8.Its always worth it to do something or be a part of something bigger than yourself.
Clearly we all can’t rescue orphans like Watoto or be part of The Red Cross but there is always enough need going around that you can do something about.Rendering help teaches gratitude.

9.Don’t show up at someone’s party if you have no intention of having fun
Crawl your pouting & sulking self into your bed and sleep but if you decide to go out with your friends don’t ruin it for every one else because you carried your sad version to the event because chances are everyone else is too busy having a blast to notice your not.

10.Always resist the temptation to press that pimple.
It never has & will never end well it just gets worse.

Happy birthday to me in advance and Happy Easter



  1. AtimMercy

    Wow!!.. this is my best of your posts so far… I had wanted to pick out the lessons i have liked the most but I realised each lesson has taught me something and I like all of them!.. mentioning sth about all of them will mean i hve to write a post about it… So I will just stop at saying this is awesome awesome awesome!!… I love it!

  2. Post

    Ooh my favorite Itesot, thank you so much
    I spent some time on it am so glad u my friend who never sugar coats it loved it.
    And for the lessons you just made me feel like a life-coach…lol

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